Shift Work, Schedules and Custody: Challenges for First Responder Parents

First responders report to the scene when others are in need. In many cases, the work they do can be the difference between life and death. While we rely on police officers, firefighters, emergency medical technicians and other first responders, they are never fully sure when their services will be needed. First responders understand that their jobs require dedication and sacrifice, even when it comes to family relationships. 

Parents who divorce or separate must abide by court orders that set forth terms relating to child custody and visitation. Schedules addressing parenting time are put in place to avert conflict and offer young people stability during a turbulent time. However, mothers and fathers with irregular work hours often have trouble making long-term plans and obtaining childcare. Extended shifts, along with night and weekend work, can conflict with school schedules and routine activities.  

If you or your co-parent is a first responder, it is important to take special care when negotiating custody and visitation arrangements. You should make sure that the schedule is flexible enough to accommodate for emergencies and unplanned overtime. One option you might consider is to have a backup person trusted by both parents, perhaps a member of the first responder’s family, who can watch the child on short notice. Co-parenting apps, shared calendars and clear notice windows for schedule changes reduce conflict and demonstrate cooperation to the court. Video conferencing is an option when in-person visits are impossible. 

Along with unpredictable hours, police officers, firefighters, EMTs and other first responders often face life-and-death situations during their day’s work. Depending on the situation, performing their duty might also take a severe physical toll. Both parents should be aware that there might be instances where fatigue, pain or stress becomes too much. First responders should not hesitate to speak up when they need some relief, such as a schedule adjustment or a helping hand during a visitation period. In the event of significant or long-term problems, temporary modifications to the parenting plan might be warranted.    

Retaining an attorney familiar with the parenting challenges faced by first responders gives you the best chance to avoid problems. This is true whether you are just starting the divorce process or already have a child custody order in place. The Henry Law Firm P.A. in Overland Park, provides comprehensive legal counsel for Kansas child custody matters, including situations where one or both parents are first responders. For a consultation, please call 913-381-5020 or contact us online.